This has been a stressful week. And let's be honest, I'm not handling the stress well at all. In fact, my stress has turned me into one of those moms who seems unable to communicate with her children at a normal volume. If my requests are not met, I start yelling. And I hate yelling. Problem is, right now it feels really good. I am beginning to understand that screaming therapy, letting the anger and frustration pour out of you in a burst of angry and very very loud words can be fantastic. Unless you're yelling at your kids. Then it really really sucks. And that's been me the past couple of days.
I hate it. I feel out of control. I feel like the kind of mom I don't want to be. I feel like a failure.
I decided yesterday that instead of feeling the frustration washing over me and carrying me away on a tide of stress and anxiety, I need to take charge. I've put a no yelling policy in place. I'm not giving in to that kind of mommy tantrum. Instead, I'm using the extra creepy, ultra calm voice when I get stressed. You know the one. It is the one that sounds all soothing and rational, but there's something off about it. It's a little too calm, too controlled and then you look in my eyes and you see the crazy welling up back there. So far it's been very effective. In fact, it freaks the kids out in a way all of the yelling has never achieved. And I feel more in control. I feel like a better parent. I feel like I'm channeling the emotion instead of just giving in. I'm one day in, and I think it might work. If I can make it through this week, I might be able to use this voice when I feel like yelling long term. That would rock. But I could probably use some more ideas.
What's your strategy for keeping your cool when you're otherwise losing your mind?
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